I had the misfortune today to read the reviews on Amazon for Ruby Wax’s book Sane New World.
My conclusion is that it can’t be that good if several of those who have read it STILL think mindfulness is about changing your thoughts and emotions, and using it as a coping strategy.
It is NONE of those things. THAT is CBT! The reason mindfulness works is because it does NONE of those things.
To clarify: there is nothing wrong with your thoughts or emotions or the way you think and feel. They do not need to change or be restructured. You do not need coping strategies. What you need to do is learn to live with your thoughts and feelings AND STOP AVOIDING THEM. Your problem is that you are not willing to make contact with you thoughts and feelings. You HAVE to LEARN to EXPERIENCE them. You have to LEARN TO LIVE WITH THEM. THAT is much harder than changing your thoughts.
Your thoughts and feelings are a part of you. Why would you try to suppress them and avoid them? If you do so you are denying a fundamental part of yourself and denying yourself the ability to gain satisfaction from your life.
YOU ARE NORMAL! WE ALL FEEL THE SAME THINGS AS YOU DO! THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!