Milk, milk, milk, milk, milk, milk, milk, milk, milk, milk, milk, milk, milk, milk, milk…….
Ever noticed how when you say a word over and over again something weird in your head happens and it doesn’t seem like a word with any meaning anymore?
This is known as defusion and it is a very handy exercise used in third wave therapies to dissociate yourself from the meaning of a word.
We have a tendency to “buy” into our thoughts. We see the things we think and the feelings we have as literally true. The word is the same as what it means.
But, words are just words. They can’t kill you. They can’t hurt you because they are only words. Or feelings.
So, why do you avoid certain thoughts and feelings if they can’t actually hurt you?
If this doesn’t make much sense to you, think about really bad swear words. Are there some you won’t use? Why? No doubt, because they are offensive. But they are only words. Say it over and over again and it morphs into something else lacking meaning. It is you that is giving it the meaning.
There was an interesting article on the BPS Digest about how some offensive words are deemed to be more offensive if YOU perceive the group they are aimed at as of lower status. For example, calling someone who is mentally ill crazy or a nutter or a looney. So, actually, finding them offensive is a sign that you perceive this group as an out group and below you. You are actually indicating your own bias and -ism.
So, if you find yourself buying into your thoughts, say them over and over again. You’ll find that they lose their power over you